Being Self-Dependent vs. Co-Dependent (Special Tool included)
The topic today is kind of, in relation to something we talked about earlier when we were talking about a giver versus a fixer. And today I want to talk about co-dependency traits versus self-dependent. And co-dependent, some people might be familiar with that topic with relation to like addiction and alcoholism. But when I talk about co-dependency I talk about in relation to partnerships or relationships with people.
A definition might be my good feelings about who I am are only in place if it's being endorsed by others. Like if you if you and I are good, or if we're in a good spot then everything is bright in my world. But if we're not in a good spot or if something is off track then I can't really function or be at my best because I'm co-dependent on your endorsement of me. Does that make sense?
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But it will give several statements and tips as to what co-dependency is and then just kind of an awareness of what you might want to do differently within yourself to become more self-dependent rather than co-dependent.
So an example of self-dependent might be you know regardless of what kind of mood you're in, I'm still going to maintain my own mood. And today my mood is super happy because I get to eat this cupcake and I think the name of this one is tempting caramel or something.
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