Taking a Pause During the Holidays

Today I want to talk about taking a pause during the holiday season. You had mentioned to me that you used to, kind of get stressed and not really like the holiday. What were you meaning by that, Jen?

Jen: Oh yeah, holidays used to stress me out a lot, and I think a lot of times it was just that pressure of, you know, what you think that you should've accomplished in the year, or what you should've accomplished, even, I mean, take it bigger, like what you should've accomplished in your life. And when you get to the holidays and you're going to see family and all that kind of stuff, and people are going to ask for that report card, that's how I interpreted that. It wasn't that way, but that's how I interpreted it.

Megan: Oh, that makes so much sense, like a class reunion, where you show up and like, uh, I don't have kids, or I'm divorced, or you just feel like a giant loser, if you're comparing yourself to everyone else's lives that are so picture-perfect.

Jen: Right, and you're never going to actually achieve that perfect checklist.

Megan: Right.

Jen: Because you're just going to be too hard on yourself.

Megan: Well, and quite frankly, it doesn't exist.

Jen: True.

Megan: The white picket fence, that concept of Christmas cards, you know, what that all looks like, and how it's so not reality for everyone I know. So yeah, that makes a lot of sense. The holiday time used to be really stressful, but how did you shift into enjoying it more?

Jen: I think I used to, I think with age and time, just came a little bit of wisdom, and realizing that I was actually really happy with where I was in my life, and that I wasn't needing to impress anyone.

Megan: Yeah.

Jen: Because ultimately, I think I was just trying to impress myself. I wanted to be a level up, and I didn't need to be.

Megan: Yeah, oh, I love that. That's so awesome, good for you.

Jen: Thank you.

Megan: I love the mindset shift that you just decided, hey, I've got a good thing going here, and I don't need to beat myself up over not falling into the stereotype category of what I think it's supposed to be. And that's what I would recommend, if anybody out there struggling with feeling like they're not quite adequate during the holiday time, or they're trying to compare their own lives to other family members or whatnot. Being able to shift your mindset and regain confidence and remind yourself that you're exactly where you're supposed to be. You're in a really good spot, and embrace it and be you. I'm Megan, thanks for joining us again today, and for more tips and treasures, go meganspawn.com. I'm Megan, and I'm always listening.

Jeff Pickett